It's a girl!

Our family will continue to be all sugar and spice and everything nice as I will be having a girl in June. I totally thought it was a boy. I loved the boy name I picked - Griffin James. I had all kinds of ideas for the baby's boy room. Do I have a girl name - nope! No nursery ideas either. Truth be told I kept saying that I didn't really care one way or another (and I really thought that was true) but I was a little disappointed today when we found out it was a girl. I know that is crazy. I really only care that the baby is healthy and I know that. I think I am more disappointed that I was so wrong. I really thought that the baby was a boy so I guess I can't believe how wrong I was. With my daughter I thought from the beginning that she was a girl and so I thought I would be right with this one too. Guess I better get on board with the reality and that is that I am having a baby girl. A very healthy looking baby girl so far so I am thrilled about that. Someone made a very insensitive comment to me a couple of days ago. I am usually pretty thick skinned but this really bothered me. My family came home from dinner and two of my neighbors were standing in my driveway having a conversation. The one was my neighbor from across the street who knows me and the other is a newer neighbor from down the street that I have never met. So the newer neighbor has a little three month old in a stroller and of course I commented on the baby, etc. Mom was a bit over protective so I asked if this was her first and she said yes. So my husband comes along (he had been getting stuff from the car into the house) and says well I guess we better get used to the fact that soon we'll have a little one too. I made a comment like 'There's no turning back now" Okay so this woman doesn't know me and she responds with something to the effect of "Well, it's not so easy for everyone so you should be grateful" What I wanted to say to this condescending cow was, "Okay beotch who doesn't know anything about me - how about you take your IVF condescending self right on out of my driveway and stroll yourself back down to your house. I have had three miscarriages, an ectopic twin pregnancy and cancer in the last 3 1/2 years. Not to mention a bilateral mastectomy and reconstruction and the fact that I am having this baby is a huge miracle to me and my husband and everyone who knows us including my umpteen doctors. I just choose not to wear my plights on my sleeve and walk around trying to make everyone feel sorry for me and know all my business." What I said instead with a smile on my face was, "Oh I know, we are". My neighbor from across the street looked at me and I know she wanted to say something to this woman but she too has manners and refrained. Yuck!! I have several friends who have done IVF and are just very thankful that they have been able to have children through this method and then I have several others who think that the fact that they have had to go through IVF is just the worst fate in the world and they continue to boo hoo about it even after they have been blessed with beautiful and healthy babies. There was a time not that long ago that I would have loved to have done IVF but because of my cancer history I could not. It would have been just too risky for me so I thought my option was going to be adoption but that was filled with road blocks too because of the cancer history. Very hard to adopt until you are at least 5 years cancer free regardless of what type of treatment you did or what type of tumor you had. For a very long time I felt very hopeless and I never thought we would be in a position to have another child naturally. So, for future reference - please do not make assumptions about a person's experiences or their feelings on something when you know nothing about that person. Now that that's off my chest I feel much better - haha! I will go now and get down to the serious business of choosing a girl's name and coming up with fabulous nursery ideas (oh and avoiding my opinionated neighbor)!