It's a new day...

Today is a new day. It is not raining and there is blue in the sky. My heart feels a little less heavy as does my daughter's. I'm still feeling sad and I gave a good bit of thought to leaving the blinds drawn on that side of the house. But, I decided that we need to move on. Onward and upward. We have to let go of the past to move forward. I was going to have her write a note to her friend so there would be something waiting in the mailbox when she arrived at the new house but I decided that it was not a good idea. I am not going to bring up the friend unless she does for the next couple of days to give her heart some time to heal and her head some time to process. If you knew me, you'd think I had clearly gone off my rocker! You see, I am a talker. I talk about everything and I have always been a firm believer that in order to really work through an issue or problem it must be talked about, disected, rehashed. I was a psychology major and a counselor. It's what I do!! I listen. Everyone of my friends has called over the years with a late night problem that they needed to talk about and they needed my ear to listen so they could work it out. Then I met my husband and after him along came my daughter and they are just not talkers. For years I have thought this a bad thing. I have thought that maybe my husband wasn't really in touch with his feelings or that he was ignoring things that he needed to deal with. After almost nine years of marriage and even more years of being together, I finally realized a few months ago that while I thought he wasn't dealing with things because he wasn't talking about them, he was dealing with them in another way. Gasp!! Could there possibly be another way besides my own tried and trusted method. I think there is. Yesterday when I brought up the friend my daughter said please don't talk about her, it doesn't make it better; it makes it worse. So, I am going to respect that. I am going to keep a close eye on her and I am going to try to find things to take her mind off of the friend. Yesterday afternoon we went to Build-A-Bear and made a new friend (stuffed but a friend none-the-less) and followed that up with dinner at The Cheesecake Factory and a stop at Target where we got some school supplies. I know this is aweful but somehow Target always makes it a little bit better. Today we have a playdate scheduled with an old friend. We haven't had her over in a while and sometimes they play nice and other times they need a lot of help working out their differences. Let's hope today goes well. My daughter is super excited to play with this friend and has a tea party planned for snack time. She requested scones "because you can't have a tea party without scones, Mommy!!" Love it. She may not like to discuss her feelings but there's no denying that she's my girl!